Parents are often tired, stressed, and under pressure. The temptation to 'transfer anger'—from workplace to home, from one child to another—is strong. Children can sense when they are being punished more for a parent's bad day than for their own behavior. Confucius' counsel encourages adults to be honest about the true source of their anger and to avoid venting it on the easiest target. It also challenges both parents and children to treat repeated mistakes as signals for change, not as permanent labels.