Parenting can become an unending stream of reactions—feeding, driving, correcting, organizing—without time to reflect on who one is becoming in the process. Zengzi's simple discipline offers a way to pause and align. Parents can adapt his three questions into their own: Have promises been kept? Has one been honest and fair? Have the values one teaches children been lived out that day? Such reflection need not be harsh; it can be a gentle audit that guides tomorrow's efforts. When appropriate, sharing parts of this process with children helps them see that adults also work on their own character.